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Marcus Seldon's avatar

I’m not convinced by the “selfishness” explanation, because there were plenty of good, selfish reasons to have kids in the past! People weren’t selflessly sacrificing themselves to have kids in the past, they actually benefited economically from having children. Kids would provide economic value on the farm even while growing up, and then in adulthood provide a safety net for you in old age.

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"[B]ecause socializing is a cooperation problem, even individuals who do not share emergent selfishness norms lose out on potential socializees."

This is the money quote.

Just think of the average video-gaming mid-20s homebody who lives in a "walkable" urban neighborhood. Even if he wakes up one day and decides to throw off his chains, he's faced with the problem that *there's no obvious place where he can go to start conversations with strangers*. The public establishments around him are filled with the already-acquainted, and the sidewalks are populated by headphone-wearers who seem like they don't want to be bothered. People are everywhere, but they mostly keep to themselves. *Meeting* anyone in such an environment would require a degree of social aggression and tact that lonely young men tend not to have, and besides, our guy has probably convinced himself that talking to random strangers will get him reported to the police for sexual harassment or something, so it's all pointless anyway.

Honestly, I don't know how people who aren't plugged into a religious community do it.

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